One of the sayings I frequently quote is “been there, done that, got the T-shirt”. I don’t know where I first heard it from, but it captures for me the idea that something is familiar and not worth revisiting.
I’m reminded of that phrase when I hear clients speak about balancing their life, livelihood, and relationships. As someone who was running a business, raising a family and being available to my spouse, sometimes it felt overwhelming. There were some low points when I asked myself “why”, why try to build a business when I could just go work for someone else. Why should I be struggling, shouldn’t my spouse give more so I could struggle less? Why aren’t my kids and home more manageable? Yes, I asked the questions, no one answered.
I figured it out, with God’s help. I was able to see the value in right prioritization and staying focused on main things without getting distracted. It’s not easy, but it is possible.
When I coach, I coach from what I know, and what I believe to be true. I can coach on how to reduce the mom guilt that often accompanies women who are trying to build businesses who also have a family and romantic partner. I want women to be able to enjoy this demanding, but at the same time exciting journey. Being coached is just a fast-forward button to get you where you are headed. Yes you can get there without coaching, but the journey may take longer and there may be several painful detours. That is why I say “been here done that, got the T-shirt”, so you don’t have to take the same trip, I’ll just give you the T-shirt.