“I want to have more free time to spend with my family.” “I want to be able to take vacations and not feel like my income is tied to a 9-5 job.” “I want to be free to create and pursue my passion.” “I want to change the world.” “I want to build wealth.” If any of the above were the dreams that led you into entrepreneurship, are they still what is driving you? Many along the way have found that the dream of owning a business has become the reality of a business owning them.
There is a delicate balance between professional and personal that must be maintained when you own a business. I know because I have been there. As the owner of a successful business for over 20 years I have had to stop and do some goal inventories over the years to make sure that my business is not taking over the life that I thought it would support. I didn’t want to lose my family, joy or my passion in the stress of building my business. I wanted professional success and personal fulfillment at the same time.
I have found that too many business owners don’t pay themselves. They are starving themselves to feed their business. They don’t take time off of their business to do the things they said they wanted to do. The family time and the vacation time get neglected because they are trying to build the business. There is the thought that one day in the future; after the business is “built” they will get back to the original goals. This narrative is dangerous. I have found that a business, like your child is never fully grown. You always feel the need to keep working on it, improving it, adding to it, or just supporting it. It’s always going to be your baby, in need of attention, at least until you sell it or it has another owner.
Don’t get stuck in that narrative. Learn, even as your business is in its infancy how to balance attention to its growth and keeping your focus on the reasons you wanted to be an entrepreneur in the first place. As a Professional Life Strategist I focus on how you can pursue one (Profession) and not lose the other (Life). If you are concerned that you may be losing your balance let me help you get back to what is important so that you can have success both professionally and personally.
Well it can happen. I wanted to travel through some picturesque small towns on my way to Virginia and decided to take some back roads. My GPS had been programmed for the most direct route to my destination. I started to hear “Rerouting…. rerouting …rerouting” as it quickly calculated ways I could get back on the track it had been programmed for. What it didn’t realize is that my goal had changed. I was no longer interested in the most direct route to that destination.
I am meeting so many people right now who are being told to reroute but not by choice. They were on route to 20 years with their company or they were on track to a degree but because of circumstances beyond their control they now they have to “reroute”. A change of circumstance, unless planned by you, can be disconcerting. It can be anxiety producing. It can leave you stuck, like a deer in headlights.
The factors that allowed me to ignore my GPS that day were: I had a travel companion and knowledge about the area. That along with the certainty that I could correct my course whenever I wished allowed me to travel worry free. I knew that I was not lost even though my GPS was going crazy. It actually eventually just stopped talking to me. Who knew a GPS system could pout! In all seriousness though, leaving the set course of your life can be scary, or exhilarating depending on the mindset that precedes it. Having others along the journey to discuss the experience can provide guidance and calm; gaining knowledge about how to navigate the unknown, and engaging in an optimistic mindset in times of uncertainty will be keys to successfully moving forward.
The objective of my next Group Coaching program, which is being offered June 17 – July 8, 2020, is to help others re-chart the course of their life with safety, stability, and a sense of well being. The current economic climate can produce fear which can become a stumbling block to advancement in life and livelihood. Sometimes what we expect disappears; we must learn how to reroute. This coaching group is just a tool like my GPS you can follow it or ignore it. Together the group will explore; what are the mindsets that can help you pivot without anxiety? The anxious brain struggles for solutions; the calm brain can process problems, see resources, and develop solutions and strategies. In this 4 week group you will be able to learn how to tap into that centered brain and tackle the unexpected. There are only 12 seats, so sign up quickly. To speak to me before signing up email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I can set up a call with you to answer any questions.
When I got to my destination it was later than had been expected, but I got there. I brought with me, no anxiety, only memories of hidden valleys and delightful architecture that I had been able to experience only because I had veered off course for a few hours. You will also get to a place of safety; get there with good memories, minus the echoes of stress and anxiety that you may be currently experiencing. A good guide and some coaching can make all the difference.